Brown Girl Thoughts

We All Love A Good Asshole, But Would You Actually Bring One Home To Meet You're Parents?

2011-01-09T06:47:00.002-05:00

This is a question I've asked a few females I know and the majority answer was no, they wouldn't bring an asshole home to meet their parents. Ladies, it's safe to say we've all fallen for that not so nice doucebag who even treats you like shit every so often. If you read that like "nahh not me" then you're probably lying, but it's okay ..I don't blame you. It probably wasn't you're brightest moment. Trust me, I can relate. Anywho, though its safe to say there was an initial reason why you fell for said asshole and chances are it wasn't because he was an asshole. But that's another post for another time when I'm not running on zero hours of sleep.

So yea ...the asshole. That brutally honest, yet gets on your nerves with his/her arrogance of always having to be right or that dickhead who just like to hear the sound of his.her own voice. We all know one (or five) and have you ever wondered: How the hell to they keep a girl/guy? Like do they treat the person their dealing with differently than the general population (majority of the time no)? Does the person their dealing with only put up with them for a small list of reasons (good sex, brutal honesty, empty promises, etc.)? I honestly couldn't tell you, hell to this day I still don't know why I dealt with the assholes I did. But yea, then all of a sudden, shit starts to get serious ..this person had now become your boyfriend/girlfriend and you plan on seeing where things can go. You've already introduced them to your friends and they pretty much cant stand your new boo, so what would happen if you were to introduce them to your parents?

Meeting parents is a screening process in itself, even if you don't realize it. First your mate goes through your friends. If they like him/her, they're a keeper majority of the time. If your friends hate them, they could still possibly be kept around if you don't really cherish what your friends saty or if you feel that deep for a person. The next group of screeners are usually siblings or other relitives like cousins close in age. Same thing usually applies in this process as with the friends however, you'll probably cherish your family's opinion more and make the decision to introduce your boo to your parents or not.

Honestly though, before it even gets to all of that I think you can figure out what kind of guy/girl you'd want to let meet your parents. Personally I don't think it'll be that asshole you met at a party and ended up with at the end of the night and just so happened to hit it off while you were both sober. I mean we all love a good asshole for so many different reasons, but lets be serious ..I'd NEVER bring one home to meet my parents.

Excepting The Things You Cannot Change .

2011-01-07T21:24:00.003-05:00

"Lord, grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference."

Accepting things we cannot change is an age old challenge for human beings. We seem to think that even though it's been proven century after century, that we may be that one individual to be able to change something we have no control over. It happens, we've all been there at least once. However, how many of us have accepted that one thing (or things) we cannot change? How many of us have accepted that someone we held dear is no longer living, or accepted their skin color (you'd be surprised), or even (for the ladies) accepted the fact that we just couldn't change that one guy even though we swore up, down and all over the world we could? Like I said, we've all been there ..it happens to the best of us. But, have you really accepted that? Moreover, are you ready to accept it?

I'll admit, there are some things in my life now that I'm just not ready to accept, but I know that I need to in order to move on and to learn from. But, when exactly is it time to accept certain realities? Days? Weeks? Months? Years? I can't answer that for you ..it all varies from person to person. I know me personally it varies from situation to situation. For example, I've finally come to terms with one situation about 18 hours ago that I've been trying to accept for almost two years now and was able to accept another circumstance about a week ago that I was having problems with for three months now. It all depends.

Accepting the things you cannot change should be done at you're own pace in order to ensure that you have fully come to terms with whatever (or whoever) it is you cannot change, and move on while learning something from the situation.

Sidenote: my 30 challenge of going makeup free is going pretty smooth, even though I almost put some on the other day. It's actually harder than I thought, especially since I've been wearing my glasses more but I'm pushing through it.

Challenges .

2011-01-02T19:37:00.003-05:00

Happy New Years all ! For those who follow me on Twitter (@KynKouture) I did say I was done blogging since I just don't have the time I want to put 100% into my blog, but then I realized that that's unfair to the people who read my blog and to myself because I'm pretty much giving up on myself and my ability to be able to maintain my blog as well as I know I can. So I've decided to not do that and to MAKE time to blog, maybe not daily or weekly but aleast enough to satisfy myself.

Now, this blog post is entitled "Challenges". We all face challenges in our everyday lives and whatnot but how many of us challenge ourselves? Over the next couple of weeks I've decided to challenge myself in different ways (physically, mentally, emotionally, etc). And the first challenge I've decided on was to go completely makeup free for 30 days. So from now until January 31 I will not wear any makeup at all. I won't even wear lip gloss (vasline and blistex will suffice). This isn't a very hard challenge for me but I wanted to start off simple and as the weeks/months go on to make them a little more challenging (like not wearing pants for a week or months ..stuff like that).

And since this isn't a very challenging challenge, I may do weekly challenges during the next 30 days as well. So I encourage you all to follow me on these challenges I give myself. And if you have any you want me to do, leave me a comment on this post, hit me up on twitter (@KynKouture) or my tumblr (UnspoKyn.tumblr.com) and let me know what you'd want to see me challenge myself to do for 7-30 days.

Also, I'd like to encourage you all to challenge yourself to something challenging. It builds character and gives you a better understanding or yourself, not to mention pushes you past the limits you may give yourself.

See you soon,
Kyn .

J. Cole - Friday Night Lights .

2010-11-12T22:02:00.001-05:00

J. Cole just dropped his newest mixtape entitled Friday Night Lights . Enjoy .

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Quotes Of The Day .

2010-11-08T09:14:00.005-05:00

"I'll take character over reputation ...your character is what you really are, while your reputationmis merely what others think you are" -Aubrey "Drake" Graham

I saw this Drake quote a couple months back but it didn't mean that much to me as it does now. Its so true though and I'd take character over reputation any day as well.

"Don't tell me the sky's the limit when there are footprints on the moon" -Kanye West

This quote pretty much says it all itself: Don't give me a lower limit when I know for a fact there's a higher one.

Black Girls Reallay Do Rock .

2010-11-08T08:53:00.003-05:00

Last night I watched the Black Girls Rock Awards show on BET and I've never been so proud to be a Black young woman. The award show honored successful Black women from Ruby Dee to Raven Symone. Other honoraries included Missy Elliot, Teresa Clarke, KeKe Palmer, Dr. Iyanla Vanzant, and General Marcelite Harris. And as I watched this I realized that Black Girls and women really do rock.

Black females face so many prejudices and stereotypes a day its not funny. They say its hard being Black in America, well try being a Black FEMALE in America ..it's twice as hard. We're a double minority. The amounts of burdens that we bear alone are enough to make any other person fall into a deep state of depression. Between the negative stereotypes and images we're given through mainstream media and the lack of support from our male counter parts, one should be able to understand why we come off most of the time as "angry women". We're not angry, just upset. Upset that there aren't many positive Black female figures we can look up to, upset that mainstream media sees us as either a sex symbol or an angry woman from the ghetto, upset that our Black men have yet to come and help uplift us so that we may do the same in return. I mean, don't get me wrong things are changing for the better, but at a very slow rate and it saddens me because for everyday there is a 50% effort made, only 50% of Black girls are being told their beautiful and that they can follow their dreams.

Looking back now, I'm grateful to have had so many strong Black female role models in my life. Between my great grandmother, my grandmother, mother, aunts and older cousins, as well as teachers and other mentors. I think without them I wouldn't be as proud and as stubborn as I am today. They all taught me that I need to be a strong person because "in this world, can't nobody be strong for a black woman except another strong black woman" (My Aunt Eva). And it's the truth. It takes a lot of strength to have the world on your shoulders and burdens in both hands but still having the ability to smile as if your life is perfect. I just hope my generation of Black women get it together and come together so that we can help guild the misguided young women after us.

Realizations .

2010-11-08T08:16:00.002-05:00

This weekend I found out a lot about myself and things that I want/need in life. And I think the two things I really need right now are stability and consistency. I need stability because for some reason I've lacked that for the past 4 years or so now. I've had unstable friends, jobs, relationships, even high schools. The only thing I've really ever been consistent with was being inconsistent, and I think that's why my life has been so unstable. So I figured I'd find something stable in my life and keep it consistent ..too bad I couldn't think of anything at first. Then I really thought about it and realized that I have a pretty stable job now as well as a few other things coming up in my life that is giving me the stability I've longed for as well as the consistency that I need to keep the stability there. Unlike my past jobs, which were in retail, my schedule and hours don't change on a weekly basis and I don't see a new face every time I come in to work. I guess it's little things like this that I didn't realized I needed in my life to keep me balanced. Hopefully this stability and consistency spreads in other aspects of my life as well.

Quote/Photo of The Day .

2010-10-27T10:43:00.002-04:00

I was browsing around Tumblr and came across this. Of course I reblogged it there but I wanted to share this with those who may not have a Tumblr. Enjoy.

Quote of The Day .

2010-10-25T08:30:00.003-04:00

‎'Smh, these fools out here get comfortable..they don't want
relationships but want relations, tuh! but just like a doctor you need a title
to perform.' -Tina

This is honestly where I got the inspiration to write my previous post (I was with her when she said this lol). But yea, it pretty much explains itself ..

Oh and follow her on twitter @TinagotCAKE

Ultimatums .

2010-10-25T07:34:00.003-04:00

Ultimatum (ul·ti·ma·tum): a final proposition, condition, or demand; especially : one whose rejection will end negotiations and cause a resort to force or other direct action.

I swear this past weekend, if I had a dollar for every time I heard that word I'd have all the money I spent in the the past three days and then some. I guess for a few of my friends and people they know it's hitting that one year mark for them and their (not so) siginificant other. I put the "not so" in parenthesis because I meant that them and their partner are not labeled boyfriend/girlfriend. Now, the first situstion I heard about was from a guy friend of mine. He was pretty much talking about how hes been talking to this girl for about a year now and she just refuses to be his girlfriend, and he doesn't know why. On a few occasions I've vouched for the dude and he's genuinely a nice guy, but she's just not trying to have it ..until he gave her an ultimatum: be my girlfriend or its over. Surpisingly, it worked. However, one of my other friends tried doing that with a guy she was talking to for a while now and he left her and now she's alone and upset.

My question is this though, would you ever give someone an ultimatum? Me personally, I don't know yet, I've never been pushed to do so. I feel like, if something is meant to be then it will be and if not, oh well it was good while it lasted. Not only that but I think ultimatums are a sticky situation in themselves and get even more complicated when people's emotions and feelings are involved. I mean trying to understand another human being is hard enough without giving them two solid, black and white options that will hurt someone either way at the end of the day (that person may not like the ultimatum given and walk away or they'll accept it only because they may not want to loose you but be upset with the decision they made).

Not only that, I think that's very selfish of a person to ever give another person an ultimatum in a relationship. I mean how would you feel if someone said "okay either you be my girlfriend/girlfriend or it's over" ? I think personally I'd walk away just for the simple fact that that person has no respect for my reasons (if any) to not want to be in a relationship with that person. However, I can also see it from another point of veiw: what if that person needsd a push? Some people are indecisive when it comes to things like that an may need that threat to come to terms with what they truly want. I don't know, these are all just a few thoughts of mine nothing heavy. But I mean, I'd personally never wan to be given an ultimatum as far as my love life is concerned and I hope that I'd never be pushed that far to ever make one.

Tumblr .

2010-10-19T07:50:00.003-04:00

Yes, I've finally joined the newest social networking fad ..Tumblr. I know its been around for a while now but its becoming a little more popular these days. So yea, follow me if you dare.

Oh, and for more frequent rants, raves, random thoughts by me follow me on twitter.

I Betcha Think This Song Is About You, Don't You??

2010-10-19T07:22:00.002-04:00

So, every morning for some reason I wake up with a new, random song playng in my head. This morning it was Son Of A Gun by Janet Jackson. And it reminded me of a post I was suppose to do like a week ago that I forgot about. Anyways, for those who never heard the song or don't remember it, the chorus is pretty much "I betcha think this song is about you, don't you, don't you, don't you". And it automaticly made me think about subliminal messages sent via social networks. You know what I'm talking about. We've all done it, even if not on purpose we've all made that facebook status, bbm status, tweet, tumblr post, etc. with a specific person in mind. Now, I'm not condoning it be done or anything, but sometimes it can be fun, until people start thinking everything you post is a subliminal. And a lot of times (especially on twitter) general statements are often mistaken for subliminals. I mean this could be true, this could be false only you know. And, for the most part when people assume something is about them they either A.) get mad excited or B.) get mad excited. You'll have that one person all shits n giggles cuz they have a subliminal message about them for the public to see or they get upset and start going off like a crazy hoodrat.
Now, I say all that to say this ..be careful what you assume is about you or not. If you have to think for more than 15 seconds if that facebook post, tweet, etc. is about you, chances are it's not. Or if you're reading what's probably a general statement and after 2 seconds of reading it jump to conclusions, chances are its not about you ..you probably have a guilty conscience. I mean, theres really only one way to ever know and thats to ask. But then again, do you really want to know??

Come Again ??

2010-10-08T08:01:00.003-04:00

For thoses who may not know, I'm a Boston native. And ever since I been out here in New York I've noticed a lot of things, especially when it has to do with opposite sexes interacting. Out here it seems like there is a strong love to hate relationship. To (most) girls "niggas aint shit", and to (most) guys "all girls are trifilin hoes (or any other word you can think of synonymous to that)". I mean between the girls complaining about there aren't any good men left and the guys complaining that there damn sure no good females around. I just want to know one thing, what exactly makes a girl/guy a "good" woman/man? Where I'm from the criteria one must meet are pretty small and reasonable. For the most part is we all know our worth and persue those we know meet are standards. But out here, man out here I feel like the standards are set higher for no reason and I feel like the people who ask the most out of a girl/guy don't even deserve it. I remember a couple weeks ago, I decided to listen to a convo a few guys I know were having and I was shocked at the things they demanded from a female. Some of the things were expected then after a while these niggas started talking some next shit. A lot of the standards that they set for girls seemed damn near irrational and unreasonable. Not only that, majority of these guys are know womanizers so that threw me off even more. Like how do you have such high standards but treat a lot of females like dirt?

I feel like because a lot of guys think with such high standards, they push females to lie (hence the term "females are trifilin liars"). You wanna know the real reason why women lie?? BECAUSE MEN CANNOT HANDLE THE TRUTH! I don't care who the hell you are, or sitting here reading this saying "no fuck that I can handle the truth", NO YOU CAN'T. Men cannot handle the truth, especially if it involves a female they like telling them something they may not wanna hear. An example of that is one of my close girl friends liked this guy but during a convo he brought up the question of her virginity and stated, and I quote "I hope your a virgin cuz if not, we cant talk no more" .....nigga WHAT ?! And because my friend liked him so much, she seriously contemplated on lying and saying she was. I know there are still virgins in this world but I just thought that was out of line because this guy wasn't a virgin himself. Its things like that that can lead a female to lie about a lot of unessecary things because I feel like we are set on such a high pedestal that anything less than purity is wrong. And given the century we're living in and all the media influences around us, I think the bar should be adjusted accordingly.

Now I'm not justifying the many hoes out there who are just down right crazy n shit, I'm just saying to seriously think about what you want then adjust those standards to meet what you think you're worth, especially if you've done some shit in your life (you can't buy a Porche when you only have enough for a Honda). Not only that, try to refrain from that he said, she said bullshit. Because that's what it is, pure bullshit. NEVER let someone else's opinion be the deciding factor on whether or not you're going to talk to a guy/girl. Yes, friends opinions and approvals are needed, but don't let them dictate YOUR life because at the end of the day its a decision only YOU can live with.

Sooo, Does That Work For You Brother? Pt II

2010-09-24T07:36:00.002-04:00

** Hello darlings (over exaggerated fancy British woman voice), I will be back to posting regularly starting Monday September 27th. I've been doing a lot of running around between school, work, and the many organizations I'm apart of on campus. So yeah, I'll be back on my shit come Monday =) **

So about a month ago I posted a post titled "Sooo, Does That Work For You Brother" and it basically touched on some of the most random and wrong ways to start a convo with a female in hopes to get her number. I only touched on things that have happened to me and a few of my girl friends and today I'm here to talk about another terrible method of trying to get a female's time of day: Typing a text message on your phone then slipping it to the girl. Now, before I begin I'd just like to say I never heard nor have I witnessed this happen until I came back out to New York (the cockiness of the NY natives, how I did miss it). This not only happened to two of my homegirls but it just recently happened to me.

So this past Wednesday I'm on the R on my way home and I notice this guy staring at me (for entertainment purposes lets call him Joe R. Lurkington). I notice Joe across the train staring at me, I say to myself "he's nowhere my type so let me just not make eye contact with him so he doesn't assume I'm interested". That didn't seem to work because as the train got more and more less crowded, he starts pacing in front of me. So while Mr. Lurkington is pacing past me repeatedly doing random pull ups on the bars and scratching his stomach giving him a reason to flash his stomach in eye shot of me, I can't stop thinking about how much of a douche this dude is. I get off to transfer to the F and who but Joey is getting off at the same stop. Great. So I noticed and walked to the other end of the platform. Train comes and somehow Joe Lurkington comes lurking onto the cart I'm on. He proceeds to stand next to me, pull out a Nextel i730 and types. Next thing I know he slips the phone in front of me and the message read "yo u real sexy nd i jus wanted to tell u that id do u on this train right now". Really though Joey? All that though?? Come on son! Now, not only was I offended by the message that he wrote, I was already beyond pissed he followed me onto the train I was getting on (I know he did it on purpose because he got off at the next available stop to get on a train going back from the way we just came from) and because he was doing all these other douchebag things in hopes of impressing me. Oh, and it gets better. After I kindly decline his offer, he proceeds to flash me a picture of his penis that was conveniently placed as his screen saver on his phone and says "you don't know what you're missing". Really though? At that point I just loudly say "even the ugliest chick wouldn't want that from you".

Now, of course all of these random and outlandish scenarios seem to happen to me but I have heard stories of situations close to and a little less extreme. But in any event, should you NEVER do this to a female!! I mean clearly, some dumb girl must of given in to this fuckery but still, NO! Just grow some balls and walk up to a female and try to talk to her, if she doesn't wanna talk LEAVE HER ALONE! Just take the loss and keep it moving. Remember, it's never that serious.

What I Did Today .

2010-09-19T18:25:00.002-04:00

I got my seventh (yes seventh) tattoo on impulse today. It's something I've wanted for some time now, and since I walked by a tattoo parlor I said "f*ck it, why not?"

Lucky Number Seven

R.I.P. Tupac

2010-09-13T16:13:00.000-04:00

R.I.P. Tupac Amaru Shakur June 16, 1971 – September 13, 1996

VMA Recap (Kyn Style)

2010-09-13T15:32:00.002-04:00

Okay sooo, if you didnt see the MTV Video Music Awards here's what happened in a nutshell (according to me). Eminem opened the show in a very 8 Mile-ish way ..Rhianna surprised us all when she appeared on stage with him to perform Love The Way You Lie. Chelsea Handler was a great host, if you can withstand her dry humor like I can. Lady GaGa took home damn near every award and kept her face from being covered in weird veils the whole night. Though she did have a dress made out of meat (eww). Justin Bieber performed and was great (Usher def taught him everything he knows I'm convinced!), he also won Veiwer's Choice. Drake, Mary J. Blige and Swizz Beatz performed Fancy (Drake, actually did a little better than usual). Too bad his fellow Young Money member Nicki Minaj fell short in her performance during the White Carpet Pre Show. Oh and Will.I.Am showed up in black face - __ -. Usher performed too, he looked like an older, black version of Justin Bieber though (not to mention he's getting old too cuz homie was out of breath before he got to the first verse of OMG). B.o.B performed and gave 115% energy (I LOVED it!). Taylor Swift performed a song basically saying she forgave Kanye for last year and Kanye closed the show with a song that pretty much said "Fuck you Taylor, I'm not that sorry for what I did" ..classic Ye, I love it! So yeah, here are a few clips from last night, enjoy.\

2010 MTV Video Music Awards - More VMA Video

As far as fashion and what people wore on the White Carpet, check out a few of my fav ppl in my GALLERY. PS, Ke$ha stole my heart with her dress made out of trash bags!!

Quote of The Day .

2010-09-08T17:33:00.002-04:00

"‎never get jealous when i see my ex with someone else because my parents always taught me to give my used toys to the less fortunate.." -@DjZeke

Writer's Block & Thank Yous.

2010-09-08T07:53:00.001-04:00

So lately I've been suffering from an extreme case of writer's block that I can't seem to shake. I can't even tell you all how many times I've Googled ways to cure writer's block in the past week or so. Yeah, I did write a little something on Saturday, but that was because it was something I've been meaning to write for quite some time now so I already knew what I wanted to say. But as of now, I'm still in this rut.

But, I would like to say thank you to all the people who have read my older posts. It makes me feel all warm n shit knowing that there are people who actually read my blog and who actually like it. I remember someone saying they like my blog because I stay true to myself by not making it "another music/fashion/gossip blog". So I apprecitate the support from everyone, even people I don't know who follow me on witter and read my blog. I'd also like to thank Josh and Les [shoutouts to NovembersChildren.com and SwindleSeason.com] for keeping me from believing my writer's block will never go away.

Random Video .

2010-09-04T12:19:00.003-04:00

My Favorite Song off Hip Hop Is Dead. Yes, I'm a Nas fan. No, that doesn't mean I'm not a Jay-Z fan. Honestly, I can't compare the two ..they both bring something important to the table.

It Should Be Illegal to be This Relevant !!

2010-09-04T11:53:00.005-04:00

**I'd like to apologize for my abscence but I've started classes and work and catching up with people I haven't seen since May, so I'm still adjusting to my new schedule and finding a good time to post ..bear with me.

Wale. This man is so relevant to REAL everyday life it should be illegal! Like, just about any given song I listen to by him I can relate to almost instantly. Wether it's Diary (Attention Deficit) or The Cloud (More About Nothing), when I listen to the words he says I often find myself agreeing and being just that more one with the music. And I feel like just about everyone in one way or another can relate to a Wale song ..wether you feel insecure about the color of your skin or feel like you have a frend or two who are out to set you up for failure, there's a Wale song for it and everything in between.

I feel like Wale is so relevant and down to earth that it's scary. Like, it's been a while since there was an artist who related to the everyday person and not just those who deal drugs or vicuriously live the life of a gangsta. Wale IS for the everyday man (and woman). And it bothers me just a little bit when I hear people down talk ale and his work. Yeah, we're all entitled to our opinon and I'm not trying to convert people into Wale lovers but I will say this, listen to one of his albums or mixtapes from beginning to end without skipping a song before you make your final judgement on the man. Also, listen to what he says and not how he says it. I've found that most of the pepole who say they don't like Wale is because of how the way he rhymes. So, just give the man a shot. He speaks amazing words, and if you don't like him because of how he says these words then Wale will forever remain one of Hip Hop's Underdogs.

Its Really Been Nine Years, WOW

2010-08-25T21:45:00.002-04:00

Nine years ago today Aaliyah Dana Haughton was killed in a plane crash. Honestly, she was one of the biggest female influences in her time. Between her and Left Eye [RIP to her also] they were the reason I wanted to wear baggy pants and tight little tops, dance, and walk around with a "I'm Billy Badass" attitude. Aaliyah had the voice of angel and the moves of a baby Janet Jackson. And it's safe to say, she is still truly missed.

R.I.P. Aaliyah January 16, 1979 – August 25, 2001

For All The Non-Believers .

2010-08-23T10:53:00.002-04:00

Now, when people say "Pussy Rules The World" many don't want to believe it. Well, in case you haven't heard P.U.S.S.Y. by Jay Z and R. Kelly, it pretty much does. Wars have been started because of pussy, dynasties have fallen due to pussy But here's a comedic spin on the topic that still pretty much sums up that pussy, DOES in fact rule the world.

Quotes By Betsey Johnson That I Love

2010-08-23T10:02:00.002-04:00

“Love is a disease of the heart…in the end, there is no treatment curable and it might just kill you.”

“Girls do not dress for boys. They dress for themselves, and of course, each other. If girls dressed for boys, they’d just walk around naked at all times.”

Betsey Johnson is such a free spirit and I think that's what I love the most about her. She speaks from her heart and not her head, so when she says things, their genuine.

Wolf in Sheeps Clothing (Part Deuce)

2010-08-23T09:49:00.003-04:00

Okay so, I didn't think I'd ever be doing a part 2 of anything but this is something I noticed in the past couple days seeing that I'm leaving for school this weekend. In referral to the title, I've noticed that I know more wolves in sheep's clothing than I thought. This time by its more true definition. But I mean I honestly should of seen it coming seeing that I've witnessed them bash people then turn around and befriend them minutes after. Oh well, you live and you learn I guess. But it's people like this that make me dislike people more and more. I've distanced and detached myself from so many people because they've only proven time and time again to disappoint me. If I wanted this much disappointment I'd of applied to nothing but Ivy League Colleges my senior year of high school.

But again, no skin off my back. Trust me, way worst has been said and done to me so things like this haven't phased me for some years now. I'm fortunate enough to posses the ability of detachment and thankful that I learned that everyone isn't your friend at a young age (thanks mommy). You know though, it just sucks though that people who don't even know me want to slander my name. Not to mention these are people who are a couple years older than me, so you'd think they'd know better, obviously not. I mean we were all told at some point or another in our lives never to judge a book by its cover. Well, I'll say this ..don't judge THIS book by its cover or the couple pages you were fortunate to read, you gotta read THIS book cover to cover.

This One's For Will lol

2010-08-20T01:06:00.001-04:00

A funny little inside joke we have with one another lol.

T.I. Says He Doesn't Wanna Be A 40 Year Old Rapper .

2010-08-20T00:57:00.002-04:00

T.I. said he's gonna retire at 40 because he doesn't wanna be that old rapping. He makes some valid points though. Check out this quick clip of him speaking about it.

T.I. - MTV Shows

Power Remix - Kanye ft Jay Z & Swizz Beatz

2010-08-20T00:48:00.002-04:00

Oh eM Gee !!!! That's all I can say about this remix, itgoes that hard !!
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Miss Me by Drake .

2010-08-20T00:39:00.002-04:00

Not really a huge fan of any of Drake's videos and this one's no exception. However I do like this song. Oh, and have yall ever peeped how Drake ALWAYS has on a letterman jacket in EVERY single one of his videos?? Bet you he has one in every color lol.

GREAT Quote of The Day .

2010-08-18T00:53:00.002-04:00

Today's Quote comes from my good friend Tom. So many words can describe him but in one sentence I'll say he is a comedic realist. This is something he tweeted yesterday (I was gonna post this yesterday but got lazy, sue me).

"#notetofemales leave the door open when you POOP. Shows us your human too. You might gotta SPRAY but that's cool" - @SayItAintTom

In all honesty I think that it's the realest thing I've read in a long time because most guys don't want to admit or acknowledge that girls DO poop.

New Video From Trey Songz: Bottoms Up .

2010-08-18T00:47:00.002-04:00

Okay, I'll admit when I first heard this song I didn't like it until I heard Nicki Minaj's part. In all honesty I still don't like the song that much but I do still love Nicki's verse. This video though .... don't know why but I LOVE it! It's soooo out of Trey's comfort zone of lovey dovey love making but still has A LOT of sex appeal. This video just might make me like the song a little more.

Thigh High Socks.

2010-08-18T00:29:00.006-04:00

So I've worn thigh high socks before (out to clubs, parties, etc) but I've never thought you could wear them during the day casually, and comfortably without people mistaking you for a street walker. However, during my first year of college, I noticed this Asian girl who wore thigh high socks damn near everyday during the winter and whe looked fabulous! Then, I thought "oh wow she's so cute, but I could NEVER pull that off". Now, I think I'm ready to pull it off. I recently bought a few pair from American Apparel but have yet to piece together an outfit for them (give me a couple more weeks). I personally think that anyone can pull off wearing thigh high socks, you just have to believe you can (the same with red lips). So the question remains, can YOU pull off thigh high socks?

Red Lips .

2010-08-18T00:06:00.003-04:00

I think this is the two most commonly said thing females of color do not look good in. In my opinion I think we look marvelous with red lips (if done correctly). Like today, I wore red lipstick and got a lot of compliments on it from both guys and girls. For females of color espiceally, it's all about finding that shade of red that compliments your skin tone (example, I'm dark skinned so I use a darker shade of red). Also, make sure to LINE YOUR LIPS!! The reason most people say red lips looks terrible on black girls is because we have fuller lips. And with ANY lipstick especially red, we need to line our lips before applying any lipstick. Here's a video of how to line and apply red lipstick for girls of color. Its done by one of my favorite makeup toutorialist on YouTube. Her YouTube channel is eyeXluvXmakeup‬‎, she works at I believe either MAC or Sephora so she knows what she's talking about and also gives some good makeup advice. Also, you can skip a few of her steps (I do, I don't shade my lips as much as she does). Oh and I decided to put a few pics of myself wearing red lipstick a couple times. So yeah, enjoy.

Everyday Red .

A More Done Up Red .

New Season of Weeds Airs TONIGHT !!

2010-08-16T19:37:00.002-04:00

Oh my gosh I LOVE this show, its sooo great. One of the best Showtime Originals. Long story short, it's about a Housewife whose husband dies and leaves her with 2 kids, a comfy lifestyle, and a lot of bills she cannot pay. So, she starts selling weed to make ends meet, and the rests goes from there. Cheak out A preview of thie upcoming season.

My "List"

2010-08-16T18:47:00.003-04:00

Okay so, you know how we all [well most] say that they have or refer to having a Bucket List? Well I kind of have one, EXCEPT these aren't things I want to do before I die. Instead, it's a list of things I'd like to do before I'm thirty. Seeing that I'm only nineteen, it sounds like I'm crazy but just yesterday I can remember being fifteen and starting my freshman year of high school. So time does fly and it does sneak up on you faster than you think. Anywho, here's my list of things I'd like to do before I turn 30 [in no specific order]:

1. Live in another country. Even if it's just for a couple of months, I just want to say I lived outside of the United States.

2. Find a real friend. Yes, I do have some pretty good friends but I want more. I want a friend who knows me better than I know myself. Majority of the people I call friends know bits and pieces of my life, but not all of it.

3. Become good friends with someone of the opposite sex. I want a genuine, PLATONIC friendship with a guy. And when I say platonic I mean that we've never had nor thought about doing the do with one another.

4. Have a baby. Kids were never really apart of my plan in life but I've come to see that having kids isn't as bad as I thought it was. Now, I'm not saying I want to go have a baby tomorrow, but I'm not opposed to the idea anymore. Not to mention I'd like to tell my kids a few funny stories about my younger years.

5. Go skinny dipping. I think this is something I've wanted to do for the longest!! Honestly I just want to do it so I can say I've done it.

6. Eat a food I can't pronounce. Why not? I'm a very picky eater and I think the only way I can overcome that is to go out of my comfort zone and try something completely exotic and by me not being able to pronounce it.

7. Party for 24 hours straight. Enough said.

8. Go to Vegas. Honestly, I'd like to goto Vegas and wake up with no recollection of the night before.

9. Go to and participate Mardi Gras. And when I say participate, yes I mean flash a crowd or too for some beads.

10. Go sky diving. I love heights, but I'm afraid of falling to my death. By me going sky diving I'll be conquering a fear and having some fun.

11. Meet a porn star. Yeah, sounds crazy but why not?

12. Buy my parents a big gift. Without my parents I would not be who I am today, so the least I can do when I get some money is to buy my parents a big present.

13. Splurge on myself. And when I say splurge, I mean SPLURGE. Like buy myself something obnoxious like a pair of $2,000 pair of shoes of something.

14. Go on an actual date. Dinner, movies, small walk, and good conversation. That's all.

15. Apologize to someone I've hurt in my past. Growing up I wasn't the nicest person to a lot of people and I think that as a form of closure, I think it would be good if I apologized to someone I put through hell.

16. Learn another language. I just want to learn a language that's not Spanish or French.

17. Shoot a gun. Again, just to say I did it.

18. Crash a wedding. Why not?

19. Find the restaurant that they shot Seinfeld and eat in it. I'm a Seinfeld fan and ever since I watched the show for the forst time when I was about 8 I wanted to go New York, visit, and eat in that restaurant.

20. Have one good one night stand. I'm talking one good hook up and never seeing that person again, EVER.

What's on YOUR list?

I Finally Bought Them !

2010-08-15T22:09:00.002-04:00

After seeing these commercials for the U by Kotex tampons, pads, and panty liners I finally went and bought some. I said I would for a while now but I recieved a coupon in the mail yesterday and it expired soon so I said why not. While I've yet to try them out, I will say this I hope that I will not be disappointed because Kotex is a good quality and affordable feminine hygiene line, not to mention the commercials for U by Kotex make you want to go out and buy the line of products, I know it made me want to. Kudos on the marketing angle Kotex, KUDOS. While there are a few commercials out there for the line, this one is my FAVORITE!

Random Weekend Fashion Finds .

2010-08-15T21:53:00.002-04:00

Hello all, now those who know me know that I love high end and vintage fashion. But this weekend I found some cute pieces in two of the most unlikely places. I scored these cute pair of jeans by Miley Cyrus by Max Azria from Wal-Mart (yes yall Wal-Mart), and I found this cute tank top by an unknown brand at Target. Take a look.

Miley Cyrus bleached jeans $20 !!

Unknown brand bow tank from Target $2.50 (yes the comma is in the right place)

Mens Clothing & Accessories: My Secret Addiction

2010-08-12T15:47:00.001-04:00

I love to shop. I love clothes. I love fashion. I love mens fashion. I love mens fashion on women. Once very popular in the late 80s and early 90s, feamles wearing mens pieces is coming back. It's coming back in a more girly form but still making a comebak none the least. However, I'm not talking about going out and buying boyfriend fit jeans and tees. I'm talking about browsing the mens sections of your favorite stores. I do it all the time and I always find pieces that I like and wear. Here are a few examples.

Mens Button Ups:

I own about 3 or 4 mens button ups and I love them. I usually pair them with tight skinny jeans or leggings with a cute ballet flat. This summer, I wore them and paired them with destroyed short shorts wit a canvas shoe, or a tight high waist skirt and nice flats.

Mens Cardigans:

I love all cardigans really. But mens ones are a little warmer. I've worn mens cartigans in late fall without being cold and I think thats great, less layers I had to wear. I own maybe 2 men's cardigans I think [I have so many] and I've worn then with everything from destroyed skinny jeans to skirts. They're very versatile (esp the neutral colored ones). I suggest every girl own alteast one.

Mens Duffle/Gym/Day Bags:

Ladies, if you like big purses and bags I suggest you take a trip to the mens department of your favorite store. I cant tell you how many cute bags I've found there. Majority of them are masculine enough for a guy to wear with confidence but cute enough for a girl to go "i can see myself wearing this to class". And unlike our purses, they're FUNCTIONABLE. I have a Fred Perry bag that I can fit all the things I have in any of my purses along with my laptop AND books for school. Invest in one!!

Mens Underwear:

Yes, mens underwear (briefs mainly). I kid you not when I say they are the most comfortable underwear I own! They fit like womens boyshorts and are less constricting than womens underwear AND they come in way cooler stlyes (I have pairs ranging frm Homer Simpson on them to Marvel super heroes). Plus, they stretch wider and are of thicker material (I suggest you give them a try when Mother Nature drops off her monthly gift).

Mens clothing looks great on females. Bigger sized clothes will make you look slimmer, especially if you balance it out with a tighter piece. I suggest you try them out. Also, play with other mens accessories (bow ties, hats, shoes etc.) they look great on us as well.

Throwback Thursday .

2010-08-12T15:45:00.000-04:00

So with everyone returning to or starting college soon I decided to do this week's throwback on the sitcom A Different World. I tell you this, when I first saw this show back in the 90s I wanted to goto a college like Hillman. Unfortunately no college will ever be a Hillman BUT your college can be your very own Hillman if you make it.

Here's a short background of the storyline: Its a spinoff show that follows Denise [the oldest daughter from The Cosby Show] in her first year at Hillman College, a fiction HBCU in Virginia. After Denise dropped out of college to go back home and travel Africa [aka she was pregnant] the show focused more on other characters like Dwayne, Whitley, etc.
See, told you it was short lol.

If you have never seen the show before I suggest you watch it, its really funny and ever though it was made in the early 90s, college students now (esp students of color) can still relate to it. The show talked about everything from date rape to hazing, things actual college students can and often do encounter. So either YouTube it or catch it on TV (it still comes on Oxygen and TV One every now and then, check your local listings).

LMAO! 50 blacks on Shyne!!

2010-08-12T15:42:00.001-04:00

Well, This is INTERESTING

2010-08-11T23:53:00.003-04:00

So apparently, iPhone owners have more sex than Blackberry owners, and Blackberry owners have more sex than Android users. After reading this statement, how many of you guys want an iPhone now? lol ..For the full article click here.

Quote of The Day .

2010-08-11T23:46:00.002-04:00

"I heard how u get dimples is cuz ur father was pokin while effin ur mom wen she was pregnant. That true?" -@GetemWetSteph

I don't know why but I found this sooo hilarious! Follow my neighbor/close friend Stephan on twitter yall, he has his funny moments, I promise.

I Have A Problem .

2010-08-10T23:15:00.002-04:00

Hi, my name is Kyndra and I have a shopping addiction. That's right, a shopping habit. Its not as bad as Rebecca Bloomberg from Confessions Of A Shopaholic (yet) but I know that this is a serious issue that can and will get worst over time. And today while I was on day two of compulsive shopping, I realized why I shop so much ..I'm not happy. When I say I'm not happy doesn't mean I'm depressed or anything but I'm not happy with the way things are in my life, I'm just content and going with the flow of things and I use shopping to fill that void of happiness. Now I know there are probably a million and one other positive things I could be doing with my time but shopping is my choice of poision. I shop when I'm sad, I shop when I'm mad, I shop when I'm lonely, and I shop when I'm happy. But I will say this, atleast I'm not drinking my problems away like a few other people I know. I'd rather be in debt with pretty things than a f*cked up liver.

Now, this is the part where I'm supposed to talk about what I'll do to cut back on shopping my feelings away, but I won't. I like shopping. I never regret the things I buy. I find joy in shopping. It's the only thing right now that doesn't make me want to kick puppies and small children. I have a semi low patience and cannot deal with people 24 hours a day, but I can spend 24 hours in a store or two and be content. Yes, I shouldn't shop my emotions away but whatever, I like it like a crackhead loves crack. It hasn't hurt me yet and it probably never will, but one of these days I will cut back on the shopping once I discover that thing that I'm missing in life.

WTF Was That ?!

2010-08-09T20:46:00.003-04:00

Sorry, I was suppose to post this last Friday but I got caught up doing other things. As you may know by now, Kanye West released his video for Power this past Thursday. A lot of people were mad, upset, etc. etc. that it was only 1:43. If you follow Kanye on twitter, he clearly said that it was NOT gonna be a music video, but instead a painting. I personally liked it, it was a beautiful piece of art and once I learned the meaning behind it I understood and liked it even more. His moving painting is based on the story of The Sword of Damocles. Read that story. Watch the video. Listen to the entire song. It will all make sense.

Picture of the story of The Sword of Damocles

Music Monday .

2010-08-09T20:43:00.004-04:00

in studio video of Wacka, Wale & Roscoe Dash doing "No Hands"

heard Wiz shut it down when he was in Boston this past weekend. apprently we were the biggest crowd he's ever performed for. kind of mad i missed it but i do actually like this song

yea, i'm a little late with this one but its such a beautiful video .

Fearture Friday .

2010-08-06T12:02:00.003-04:00

This week I'm featuring yet another good friend of mine. He's a rapper by the name of Flamez. He recently dropped his first single titled "Welcome To Boston". And that's off his fourth mixtape (I think, don't kill me Jay i honestly cant remember right now) titled "The Heat Is On". For breif bios and some older tracks he's done check out his facebook, youtube, and myspace pages. And for booking info email rhoamingmusic@gmail.com. But yea, here's his new single, along with one of his older tracks thats one of my personal favorites, its called "She's Gone" and off his first mixtape whose name I can't remember (again don't kill me Jay I just cant think of the title right now)that he later released again on his last mixtape titled "Everyday A Star Is Born". Enjoy.

[Another] Throwback Thursday .

2010-08-05T16:49:00.001-04:00

I've Got Your Man - Lady Saw .
One of these days I'm gonna post this interview I saw of her back in 06, LOVE her !!

Quote of The Day .

2010-08-05T16:18:00.002-04:00

"pride wont be the death of you, but it can leave u lonely ." -@KynKouture aka ME

This is something I've been thinking about all week, and this is the conclusion I've come to. Pride can and often times does interfere with the decisions we make, especially when in choosing partners (e.g. a girl wont talk to a guy because he doesn't dress fly, even though he's willing to treat her right or a guy not wanting to talk to a female because she has a lengthy history even though he does to and she's willing to treat him like a king). Pride is something that's has to set aside, I know. But think about this, pride doesn't greet you when you come home nor can it keep you warm at night. Just some for for thought.

Throwback Thursday .

2010-08-05T16:16:00.003-04:00

Due to a high volume of rain in Boston [its like a mini monsoon out there] my satellite tv went out [damn Direct TV] so I'm forced to watch DVDs and I came across this one. Its a good movies if you haven't seen it already.

Shoegasm !! Small Preview of Christian Louboutin's Fall/Winter Collection

2010-08-05T16:12:00.002-04:00

Quote of The Day .

2010-08-04T12:50:00.004-04:00

"It's harder to talk yourself out of something than it is to talk someone else out of something" -Unknown

This, is soooooooooo TRUE! Well, atleast I think it is. You can talk someone else out of doing something, talking to a certain person, etc. by playing devil's advocate but when it comes to talking yourself out of doing something, it's like an internal war with yourself and yourself. Sure, you can attempt to play devils advocate with yourself but majority of the time, emotions will get in the way and you'll see no wrong reason as to why you shouldn't do whatever it is that you were trying to talk yourself out of.

Mixtape Review: More About Nothing by Wale

2010-08-04T12:37:00.002-04:00

Wale, Wale, Wale, WALE!! Words cannot describe how much I appreciate this man as a musician and poet. He's so relevant and underated that it should be a crime. And his newest mixtape is no different. Well, it is but not in a bad way. More About Nothing is still filled with classic Wale poetic breaks and witty punchlines, with a twist of witty snippets from the sitcom Seinfeld. I love that those snippets are in there, not only do they enhance the mixtape but they also make it more humurous and amusing, especially for those who watch Seinfeld regularly or have seen a few episodes. Congrats Wale, I hope the world falls in love with you sooner rather than later.

Letter to Kanye West .

2010-08-02T23:43:00.002-04:00

Dear Kanye,

First off I would like to say I love you more than I love my own mother and I strive to be as big of an asshole as you are. However, I was wondering if you could please, PLEASE delete your twitter. Now, I was hype to hear that one of my biggest inspirations finally made a twitter as much as the next fan. But I got disappointed quick once you started tweeting. Let's just say I was hoping for the Kanye who told the world Bush don't care about black people, hell I was even gonna be happy with the Ye who made Taylor Swift cry. Sh*t, I would of even taken the Amber Rose ass grabbing Ye. But this diamond teeth twitpic-in, Persian rug wanting boring old man. Yes, I said it Kanye, your twitter is quite BORING! Not to mention you only tweet when you're on a computer. Um, hello! I know you know atleast 5 people who have twitter and twitter apps for their phones, trust me it won't kill you to ask one of them to show you how to put one on your mobile device. Oh and it good to see you're finally following one person (though I will give you your props for reaching 300,000 followers in 2 days without following one person back). But anyways, I will forever be a fan of youre, but I strorongly suggest you delete you're twitter OR start tweeting like the reckless, ignorant, asshole I know you can be.

Love Always,
Kyndra Ricketts

PS If you don't decide to delete your twitter, can you atleast download a mobile app to your phone?

Sooo, Does That Work for You Brother?

2010-08-01T15:38:00.003-04:00

A couple weeks ago this guy's friend slipped her his number and was like "yeah, you cute and shit so call me". We couldn't stop laughing at that for days, and honestly to this day if I shoot her a text or facebook post saying "yeah, you cute and shit" I bet you she'd reply laughing her ass off. And her response to him as she took jokingly took the piece of ripped paper was "sooo, does that really work for you brother?" Anyways, the point of this post is to ask a serious question: Do some of the things some guys do really work for them as far as getting a female? Here are a few examples that I personally have come across and personally hate:

Example #1: Slipping your phone number to a female on a slip of paper.
Yes, I too have been a victim of this. Okay, so the first thing wrong with that is WHY DON'T YOU USE YOUR CELL PHONE?! Um, last time I checked it's 2010, everybody pretty much has a cell phone so what I don't understand is why you couldn't whip out your cell phone and take down chick's number? Hell, you could of even told chick to take down your number. And I don't wanna hear the excuse of your phone is broken or you didn't pay the bill. Well I'll tell you this, if your phone is broken or you didn't pay the bill, you have no business trying to get a girls number in the first place. Get yourself together first then go about trying to make a lady friend or two.

Example #2: Following a girl down the street trying to get her attention after you've successfully failed at doing so when she walked past you.
This one's pretty self explanatory but for those who do this or have done this, STOP IT! Females don't like this! Its creepy and uncomfortable. I mean how would you feel if some random person was walking behind you like "ayo ma, you not gonna stop? you cant do that for me? you can't even stop and talk?". Um, NO! Take a hint, if I wanted to stop and talk, trust me I would have. Hell, even if I was in a rush to go somewhere, if I was interested I would at least taken your name and number or gave you my info.

Example #3: Attempting to get my number after I've turned you down on various other occasions.
Now I know there's an old saying "if at first you don't succeed, dust yourself off and try again". Well yeah that works on a lot of things, except tryin to get a female. Well I can't speak for the entire female population, but me personally, if I turn you down once I'm going to every time you ask me for my number. Honestly, I find this to be quite annoying, like if I said I didn't want to give you my number the first 3 times, what makes you think I want to the fourth time you ask me? It's not me trying to play hard to get, I just don't want you to get me.

Example #4: Being a down right asshole.
Now, I love a good asshole as much as the next person. At times I can be an ass too ..but not towards someone I like. Now, I've witnessed a guy friend tell me how much he's feeling this girl and yet he treated her like shit. Insulted her, the whole nine. And yet he claimed he liked her. This has been pulled on me too and personally it's an instant turn off. Yeah, its fun to joke around and name call every now and then, but if you're constantly talking to me a certain way thinking I'm gonna keep liking you, you've got it all wrong. I'm not gonna sit and just let anyone talk to me any ol way they want to. Nah, brother.

So the only question I have to ask is do these things really work for some of you guys? Well, clearly it has seeing that you've attempted it again. But I honestly feel like do you really think you're gonna find a suitable female by using these or similar tactics. I don't know, those things just aren't my cup of tea.

Feature Friday

2010-07-30T16:21:00.005-04:00

This week's feature is another good friend of mine named Tommy Thomas (yes that's his real name). He's a photographer whose quickly becoming very popular on the party and events scene. This young man has talent. I don't use that word too often but believe me when I say it, he's a talented photographer. With the help of yours truly he's made his photography debut at St John's 2010 Spring Fashion Show, Concert, and after parties that followed. Along with doing events photography, he also does photo shoots, and photo editing. For bookings email TommyTPhotography@gmail.com. Also check out his early work at tommyt0.blogspot.com as well as his new website at TommyTPhotography.com and you can also check out some photos Tommy's shot of me in my Gallery.

The Man behind the Camera.

Throwback Thursday .

2010-07-29T14:10:00.001-04:00

This song will always and forever be a "hood classic" . A song about ghetto love at its finest. Enjoy.

Why Does It Matter ?

2010-07-28T13:52:00.003-04:00

So this question has been the root of a lot arguments/debates/discussions and at this point I've yet to really speak my opinion on it: Why is a person's body count so important? Okay, for those who don't know what a body count is, it's how many people a person has slept with in their life time. From the debates I've listened in on, majority (mostly guys) feel like the higher the body count the more of a hoe the person is. Well this is such a sad double standard because I actually know a lot of good females who are willing to find, keep, and take care of a man but are haunted by their body number and vice versa. I know a few guys who are good guys, but because they went a lil overboard with the headboard banging, they are now looked at as unsuitable.

Well, here's my view on it all. I see nothing wrong with having a high body count for a male or female. I mean really, its 2010. Sex is inevitable these days, especially with all of the sex that's portrayed in the media. And the whole "smashing the homies" thing (sorry I'm going a little off subject for just a second) needs to be put to an end. Let's be honest, there's going to be some "cross pollination" if you hang around the same people who all know pretty much everyone. Unless the female/male knew that they were smashing a homie (in which case most don't) I feel like it should not be an issue. As long as sex is protected and consensual, I don't see why a person's body count should matter.

Music Monday

2010-07-26T13:01:00.000-04:00

New Music/Video from Kid Sister called Big N Bad

Feature Friday

2010-07-23T12:21:00.005-04:00

Okay so, Feature Friday is something I'm starting today. It'll feature up and coming muscians, designers, bloggers, etc. who I either know or appreciate their work. There might even be some pretty well established people featured too, I don't know yet though, I just came up with this idea lastnight lol. Any who, my very first feature is on a group out of The Bronx called SICC Music. I actually goto school wit 1/2 of the group [hi Jared &' Anthony lol] and they just recently dropped their third music video for their song titled Exclusive. I personally love the song and the video. The concept of it all is great. For a quick bio and to listen to some of their other tracks click here and to download their mixtape The Arrival click here. And here's SICC Music's music video for Exclusive, enjoy.

Whats In My Purse (Video)

2010-07-23T00:27:00.001-04:00

My first video blog . Sorry its blurry but whatevs, hope u guys like it .

Quote of The Day .

2010-07-21T10:48:00.002-04:00

So every Monday-Friday at 10am on TV One I watch Black Men Revealed. Its a show where Black men talk about everyday issues they go through [life, women, etc] and today they were talking about the difference between white and Black women and Ryan, one of the hosts said this quote:

"White women get down, Black women negotiate" - Ryan Stewart

I agree with this soo much. I don't mean to be stereotypical but most white women are more submissive and less likely to speak their mind when there's something wrong. Where as Black women are more likely to speak up [or negotiate] the problem at hand.

Music Monday .

2010-07-19T21:21:00.002-04:00

okay sooo, me Quoya &' Takia been singing this song for like the past 3 days, its only right I make this my #MusicMonday choice, Clarks by Vybz Kartel, Papcaan & Gaza Slim

Wolves in Sheep's Clothing.

2010-07-19T02:32:00.007-04:00

Okay, first off i'd like to apologize for my mini hiatus .. I've been on vacation and just dealing with bullshit but i'm back wit a vengeance .......

Ever met someone who acts "holier than thou" but is more low down and grimier than the grimiest person you know? Well that's a wolf in sheep's clothing (Kyndra Definition lol). Recently I've learned that someone I held near and dear to my heart was a wolf. He'd talk all high and mighty, telling me things other guys were doing and how he frowned upon those things, and yet (come to find out from 5 very reliable sources) he was doing those same things he "frowned upon". And to make matters worst he'd blow all of my minor infractions out of portion, even though he was doing things 5 times as bad. Now, aint bout some bullshit?? Luckily, I'm not as dumb as I play it and just decided it's best for my heart if I just let him go. I hate liars, but I hate hypocrites even more. And this whole thing is soooo personal to me because I've known this person for years and I just couldn't believe he wasn't practicing what he was preaching sooooo often. Oh well, you live and you learn.

PS, I'm still cool with this guy, we've been close friends for years and I just cant throw our friendship away, he's like family to me.

CC Chic Boston's Debut at The 3rd Annual Terroscape Basketball Tournament .

2010-07-10T00:44:00.003-04:00

Soo as you all may not know (since I haven't had time to blog about it) me and a friend of mine Takia have started our own made to order cupcakes and today we debuted our first batch of cupcakes. Take a look at our cupcakes in my GALLERY.

Quote Of The Day .

2010-07-08T10:00:00.002-04:00

"WHEN U FOLLOW THE FLOCK U END UP STEPPING IN SHIT!!!" -Perry Vieira

Think about that. It speaks truth.

How Do YOU Toke ??

2010-07-07T14:03:00.002-04:00

Throwback Thursday: One Of My Favorite Saturday Morning Cartoon

2010-07-01T13:44:00.004-04:00

So who remembers Sailor Moon ? If you dont then you prolly weren't a kid back in the 90s. I remember back in like 2nd or 3rd grade me and my school friends use to play Sailor Moon at recess and I always argued my way into being Sailor Moon [i was a real peach back then huh ?].

Win Remix .

2010-06-30T11:06:00.002-04:00

Okay soo, I'm probably late but I jus seen this video yesterday [I dont watch music videos like that anymore on TV]. To be honest I hated the original song, I thought it was garbage. But the remix goes hard. Rick Ross, Busta, Diddy, Nicki Minaj, Fabolous, Jada &' Fat Joe all go too hard on this track. Here's the video, its a lil too colorful for my liking because of whose in it but its pretty good AND theres ZERO traces of Nicki Minaj the Barbie, she brought it back to Nicki in 08 aka the Nicki i LOVE!!

A Little Something I been Thinking About .

2010-06-29T00:18:00.005-04:00

Why is it that it's so hard to grasp that sometimes people want to be alone? I know me personally, at this stage in my life I'd prefer to not have a significant other, nor am I even attempting to find one. Why is that so hard to understand? Its like when guys ask me to hang out with them and I say no, they get offended. Its not that I'm tryna front, I geniuinely do not want to be bothered. I really dont want to go thru the akward "I get to know you and you get to know me" phase. I'd rather not. If and when I do decide to find that special someone, chances are they're gonna be right under my nose and we won't have to go through that whole lil process. I just think everything should happen as naturally as possible. Trying to force a relationship is a recipe for disaster in my opinion, if you have to force yourself to like someone until you eventually like them then you're wasting your time as well as the other persons. I dont know, I'm no expert on love or anything and I'm the last person on this Earth to give any advice on this topic but that's just how I'm feeling right now.

Music Monday: BET Awards 2010

2010-06-28T14:45:00.005-04:00

Lastnight BET did it again with the 10th annual BET awards hosted by Queen Latifah. She did an amazing job and even though I didn't really agree with some of the winners whatever, good entertainers and artists still won. Heres the entire list of winners and a couple video from performances that I enejoyed personally and check out red carpet pictures in my GALLERY.

Winners:

Best Female R&B Artist: Alicia Keys
Best Male R&B Artist: Trey Songz
Best Gospel: Marvin Sapp
Best Female Hip Hop Artist: Nicki Minaj
Best Male Hip Hop Artist: Drake
Best Group: Young Money
Best New Artist: Nicki Minaj
Best Collaboration: Jay-Z & Alicia Keys - Empire State of Mind
Video of the Year: Beyoncé featuring Lady Gaga - Video Phone
Best Actress: Mo'Nique
Best Actor: Idris Elba
YoungStars Award: Keke Palmer
Best Movie: Precious: Based on the Novel 'Push' by Sapphire
Subway Sportswoman of the Year: Serena Williams
Subway Sportsman of the Year: LeBron James
Viewers Choice Nominees: Rihanna featuring Young Jeezy - Hard
Centric Award: Monica
Best International Act: Dizzee Rascal (UK)
Lifetime Achievement Award: Prince

Its Already Been A Year? Really??

2010-06-25T19:28:00.003-04:00

It seems like just yesterday I found out that Michael Jackson died. It was a sad day in the world that day. I remember I was in shock and honestly I still to this day can't believe MJ's gone. Rest In Peace to the King of Pop, there will NEVER be another Michael Jackson.

Throwback Thursday .

2010-06-24T11:27:00.002-04:00

Movie Review: Grown Ups

2010-06-24T09:49:00.003-04:00

So yesterday I was able to go see Grown Up (in theaters June 25) at sneak screening thanks to my lovely mom (Hi Mommy !). Anywho, the movie was everything I thought it would be and more. First of all, if you put Adam Sandler, Chris Rock, Rob Schneider, Kevin James and David Spade in a movie its gonna instantly be hilarious! All these actors are funny, so I expected from beginning to end to laugh. And did I laugh, LOUDLY! I don't wanna give away too much of the movie, but if you LOVE to laugh and can appreciate the humor (and stunts) of these actors then you'll love this movie. Check out some pics of me &' my Partner In Crime goofing off in my new GALLERY

Food For Thought .

2010-06-22T23:58:00.003-04:00

Okay soooo, you know those signs outside of most McDonalds and Burger Kings that say "No Shirt, No Shoes, No Service"? I always wondered is I'd get serviced if I went in with a shirt on, shoes on my feet but no pants?? Chew on that.

Blunt on the Beach Anyone ?

2010-06-22T14:24:00.002-04:00

In this Photo: My brother Zay's hand, my orange lighter, OUR blunt .

Music Monday .

2010-06-21T21:30:00.003-04:00

Today's the day !! J. Cole's video for Who Dat dropped today. I don't really like parts of the concept but BBGun does a really good job in filming and J. Cole gives 110% energy. I hope his next one is better though.

I was gonna post up Hello, Good Morning remix with Rick Ross, Nicki Minaj and Diddy but NO ! that video was made out of pure laziness, its the same as the Hello, Good Morning video with Rick Ross, T.I. and Diddy, only difference is where T.I.'s part was its now Nicki, fail Diddy ..FAiL !!

Throwback Ryan Leslie Interview .

2010-06-19T18:50:00.004-04:00

Here's an interview of Ryan Leslie from 1994 when he was in high school doing volunteer work at a Salvation Army in his home town, I love him and his music ..he's such a lovely person. Kinda happy I was blessed to meet him earlier this year. Peep his glasses too lol.

Greetings from Revere Beach frm Kyn &' Quoya .

2010-06-19T12:14:00.000-04:00

I LOVE this girl soo much, she's like a sister to me !!

Some Pics from My Mini Outting Yesterday .

2010-06-17T11:38:00.000-04:00

I went and got my hair done then did some shopping on Newbury St, here are some pics I took off my blackberry .

thats the 1st time they ever put my name on my passion tea lemonade @ starbucks

Shirt by Creep Street . Avalible in mens at Karmaloop Boston &' Karmaloop.com

In Honor Of Drake's Long Awaited Debut Album ...

2010-06-15T12:04:00.000-04:00

I've decided to post his 1st music video made like 3 years ago, Replacement Girl . This is still my jam &' look how far Trey Songz has come . I KNOW yall remember when Tery was ohdee skinny w. braids ..anyways, enjoy .

HAPPY BiRTHDAY DANNY !

2010-06-14T21:54:00.000-04:00

Sooooooo today's my friend/co-worker Danny's birthday and ever since i started blogging again he's asked me to do a post on him [luv ya Danny lol]. So why not do one for his birthday ?? From the 1st time I hung out w. Danny outside of work we've NEVER been sober together lol ! Oh, I miss Saturdays at your apartment w. Ariana &' other randoms [there was ALWAYS someone different every Saturday !!]. Anywho, happy birthday Danny ..ur an old man now !

Danny &' I one Saturday .

Get Him To The Greek is a Must See .

2010-06-13T14:45:00.000-04:00

Soo I went to the movies yesterday with my cousins. We were going to go see Sex And The City 2 again for the 3rd time but we were too fashionably late to buy tickets and werent waiting another hour for the next showing. So we decided to see Get Him To The Greek starring Jonah Hill &' Russel Brand &' Diddy's in it too. We were gonna go see it later this week but since we were already here &' blah blah blah blah blah, we bought tickets &' watched Get Him To The Greek. Best decision ever ! That was a funny ass movie. Jonah Hill &' Russel Brand are funny on their own &' hilarious together. And who knew Diddy knew how to be funny, yea he was funny in this movie ..a little crazy, but funny as hell. Def a must see if you like stupid, comedic movies.

Quote of The Day .

2010-06-11T19:52:00.001-04:00

"It take a strong person to say 'I'm okay' even when their in the worst of pain and I'm a strong person . How do I know ? Cuz I'm still standing wit a back full of knives" - Yours Truly

I was thinking about all the people I've been betrayed by in my short 19 years of life and I've realized something ..I'm still standing. And only a STRONG person can withhold betrayal, back stabbing, rumors, and just all around hate like I've experienced. So to all my readers out there who've experienced some type of pain and have dealt with it and became a better person from your pains, you too are a strong person. And remember, if God didn't know you could handle it ..he wouldn't of let you go through it.

Throwback Thursday .

2010-06-10T11:13:00.001-04:00

Yea I know I didn't post anything yesterday but I went to NY yesterday morning and was there all day, then came back that same night. But yea ..I woke up this morning to this video on my TV and I will say this, it was on of my favorite videos and songs back in 04. So yea, here's Certified Gangstas by Jim Jones ft The Game, Cam'Ron &' Lil Eazy.

PS I'm still a fan of Jim Jones &' Em but I was a hard body Dipset fan back in like 03, 04, 05 &' 06 lol.

Throwback Tuesday .

2010-06-08T11:05:00.000-04:00

This was me and my friends song Summer 2005. I remember that summer, it was right before our freshman year of high school and we were all going to different high schools. We even had a routine for this song and would do it everytime it came on at a party (we had a new routine every season to the hottest song at that time til like 2007 lol). But yea here it is: Make Her Feel Good by Teairra Mari.

Random Thought/Poll .

2010-06-04T10:00:00.000-04:00

Sorry for the mini hiatus, I've been lost in music for a few days. Anyways in my abcense, this questions been in the back of my head for like 3 days now, and the question is:

If you could only have one of the two rappers in your iPod who would it be? Tupac or Biggie? Jay-Z or Nas? Drake or J. Cole??

Tupac or Biggie ??

Nas or Jay-Z ??

Drake or J. Cole ??

I personally don't think I'll be able to choose between any of them. In my opinion they all bring something unique to the game and they all lack one thing the other has. So I don't know, I probably never will, but who would YOU choose??

New Video From Lil Wayne: Knockout .

2010-05-30T16:52:00.000-04:00

If you don't know already i LOVE Lil Wayne &' this is one of my FAVORiTE songs off of Rebirth so I was excited when this video came out today. My only dislike for this video is that Nicki Minsj could of came harder in it ..her verse is pretty solid &' if she wasn't "Barbified" in this video it would of been better. But watevs, here's Knockout by Lil Wayne ft Nicki Minaj. Enjoy .

Me &' My Girls Might Just Be Destined To Live Like The Sex And The City Women lol

2010-05-29T12:37:00.000-04:00

So I went to go see Sex And The City 2 lastnight [great movie btw] and as I was watching it, I realized me and my girls mirror those ladies just a tad. Just hear me out on this one lol:

Carrie = Quoya .

The mellow dramatic one w. the on again off again boyfriend of umpteen years lol

Charlotte = Takia .

The sensitive one who always thinks w. the "grass is greener on the other side" mentality <3

Samantha = Me .

The belligerent, alcohol loving horn ball who loves guys, but loves herself more lmao

I dont kno who out of my girls is Miranda but hey, watevs lol .

Throwback Thursday .

2010-05-27T21:27:00.001-04:00

Sooo today I wandered into the Public Garden downtown Boston and it seemed so familiar, then I realized that I use to come down here all the time as a kid. Just about every other day when I was about 6 or 7 my mom would take me down there to feed the ducks and to ride on the Swan Boats. Here are some pics I took, enjoy. Oh yea, for all the ppl who read this and are not from Boston if You ever read the book Make Way For Ducklings by Robert McCloskey as a kid, this is the Public Garden he's talking about. Enjoy.

Quote of The Day .

2010-05-25T08:15:00.001-04:00

Today's quote comes from my high school AP English Teacher Ms. AK [yea I still call her that lol] . Follow her on twitter &' check out her blog [number 1 on the Top 9 Blogs I Read; posted May 23rd], she speaks some real sugar honey iced tea .

When what you hear and what you see don't add up, subtract yourself from the equation. -@SilenceIsLoud

One of the realest quotes I've heard in a long time! I honestly wish I heard this about 3 or 4 months ago though then my life wouldn't of been a whirlwind of drama then, oh well ..alls meant to happen when it does, or so "they" say.

Rhianna & Chris Brown Do It Again [Not Together Though] .

2010-05-24T23:45:00.000-04:00

Now, I do LOVE me some Rihanna &' was too excited when the video for Rockstar 101 came out today . Great concept . And Chris Brown surprised the fuck outta me with his new video No Bullshit, WARNING: viewer descretion is advised ..this is a very sexy &' sensual video on his joint &' dont it look like he licked oh girls butt though ? lol . Anyways, enjoy =D

*Both vids courtesy of World Star Hip Hop .

Inside The Mind Of Aaron McGruder aka the Creator of The Boondocks

2010-05-24T11:54:00.000-04:00

Okay so I know quite a few ppl seen The Boondocks last night and a lot of ppl weren't happy with it b/c of the "racism" in it. Let me say this to all my fellow Afro-Americans ..YALL BEEN KNEW WHAT WAS GOiNG ON ! I know yall not gonna sit here and get offended when another African American brings it to light. There is a method behind Aaron McGruder's madness. Yes The Boondocks is a funny show but its also to raise awareness to the Black Community about issues we have suffered for hundreds of years ..he just decided to go about it in a funny yet stereotypical way. Anyways,heres a few interview clips from a few years ago about Aaron McGruder and why he writes the storylines he does. Enjoy .

The Nine Top Blogs I Read On A Regular Basis .

2010-05-23T22:46:00.000-04:00

Okay so, not too long ago someone asked me since I'm a blogger do I read other blogs. The answer is yes, I do. As a matter of fact there are 9 blogs I read on a daily basis. ea, 9 is a very random number but hey, I'm a very random girl. Here they are [in no specific order]:

1. Silence is Loud . This is actually my high school AP English teacher's blog . Outside of the women in my family, she's taught me a lot about life .
2.Blogs, Rhymes, and Life . My friend Anna's blog . She doesn't write as much as she use to but what she does write makes you think .
3. Lipstick & Labels . From fashion to music to inspiration, this blog has it all .
4. The Urban Gentleman . Yes, you read right and yes it is a mens fashion blog . I love a fashionable man and this blog keeps me up on mens fashion that I sometimes pass along to my males friends . Fellas, I highly suggest you check this blog out atleast once .
5. College Fashion . For all my ladies in college this is a good blog to read now and then . Whenever I needed inspiration for an outfit I'd refer to this blog . Not only that there are a lot of great tips to keep you lookin nice inside and out while in college on a college student's salary .
6. Novembers Children . I found out about this blog from a random bumper sticker I saw on a lamp post on my schools campus . Come to find out its a lifestyle, not a blog . Started by two, now St Johns alumni of which one I've gotten to know a lil bit [Hi Josh =D], they're two very intelligent young men who will do great things in life. Always a great read .
7. Swindle Season . Fan of music ? Love hearing new music first ? Then Swindle Season is the blog for you . Created by the lovely Les "The Great" aka one of the biggest swindlers I've come to be aquainted with [Hi Les =D] . Wanna know wat The Swindle is ..then check out Swindle Season .
8. The "L" Word Chronicles . This blog, oh this blog ! Never a disappointment ! Liane goes to school with me and she is truely a beautiful soul . Great read I promise you !
9. CoCo && Breezy . These two young entrepreneurs [only 19] are sunglasses designers to the stars . Their blog is a diary of their road to stardom . Though VERY odd, these two young ladies have a lot of potential to be another great fashion duo like Dolce & Gabanna .

I highly encourage you guys to check out these blogs, if not all of them at least one or two of them ..happy reading =D !

Quotes of The Day .

2010-05-21T12:49:00.001-04:00

These two quotes are from two lovely guys I know &' I must agree with both.
Here's the first one from Claude:

"men lie..women lie...you can even fake the numbers" - @FAB_LAW

With this being said, what can you really trust? Looks like you have to trust yourself to answer that.

The next one's from Gamal:

"not for nothing but i wish more women knew their worth... you could be queen if you would stop chasing faiytales" - @McNext

When I saw this on my Facebook I told him I was gonna blog is lol! But this is very true, a lot of female don't know their worth b/c they're trying to be something they cannot be, because they not being realistic with themselves.

Sooo yea, thank you Claude &' Gamal for these REAL words. And be sure you guys follow them on Twitter =D .

A Day Of Realizations .

2010-05-20T21:55:00.000-04:00

"I’m findin, the more I grow the more yall seem to stay the same" - J. Cole

So today I've come to a lot of realizations including the I cannot live in Boston anymore. Coming home from college has made me realize that I did what a lot of people here said they were gonna do, I got out of Boston. Being one of they few people I know who actually left the state and by doing so I've learned so much more. By going to school in another state I've realized that I don't have to live in Boston for the rest of my life complaining about how bad I want to leave; I now know that I CAN leave. Hell, I DiD leave. However, by coming back I am now convinced that I cannot live here anymore. I feel like I've out grown my hometown. All the people I grew up with and hang out with are pretty much doing the same thing they were doing before I left for New York. Not to mention, a lot of people keep telling me that I've changed. Honestly, I didn't change, I just grew up. I don't know, maybe its just me but I don't wanna be that person who complains about where they live and how they wanna leave so bad but never do it. I'm happy that I chose to leave Massachusetts and go to New York for college. Its matured me as a person greatly, not to mention I don't live with regret. But yea, I feel like this time next year I will not be living in Boston. Sure, I'll come and visit from time to time, but I just cannot see myself living here after August of this year.

Blast From The PAST !!

2010-05-20T12:04:00.000-04:00

Soo this morning I was cleaning out my closet and I found an old cassette tape from the TV show Lamb Chop. I was TOO EXCiTED ! The Song That Never Ends was my FAVORiTE song from that show !! Since I no longer have a cassette player in my house I had to YouTube it . Anyways, I'm sharing this w. you guys cuz I KNOW I'm not the only one who loved Lamb Chop as a lil kid ..enjoy !

OH YEAH, and I got my new BlackBerry [The Storm 2] ..I don't hate it as much as I thought BUT I still want either a BB w. buttons or the new iPhone #thatisall .

Road To A New Phone [update]

2010-05-14T20:08:00.000-04:00

Soooooo I went to my favorite Verizon Store located in Downtown Crossing of Boston and spoke to, well flirted with, one of the Reps there and he soo graciously offered to send me the BlackBerry Storm 2 FREE OF CHARGE until I'm available for my upgrade in September. I know I know I shouldn't have flirted with the guy to get a new phone for free but hey, sometimes a girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do. Let's just hope this Storm 2 is better than the Storm 1, we'll find out together when it comes in the mail within the next 2 business days .

In Search Of a New Mobile Device .

2010-05-13T09:30:00.000-04:00

Okay so ...........iNEED A NEW PHONE !! Right now I have a BlackBerry Storm (the 1st one) and iHATE it soooo much !! When I first got this phone a year or so ago I thought it was the best phone ever, now it can go fuck itself with a long, hard dick ! I suppose I could get me another BlackBerry but I'm not too sure, I kind of want to venture into other phone fields but Blackberrys are so efficient to me &' I need efficiency in my crazy, unorganized life ! So the search officially begins ! This summer will be the Summer Of The New Phone lol ..wish me luck you guys and I will keep you guys posted .

Once Upon A spring Day .

2010-05-06T22:24:00.000-04:00

A few pics I took &' edited today while out &' about around campus ..enjoy .

PS: all of these pics were taken via my BlackBerry .

[Second] Quote of The Day .

2010-05-04T19:36:00.001-04:00

"Easy Girls Open Their Legs...Smart Girls Open Their Minds...And Foolish Girls Open Their Hearts..." -@Jimmy_Smacks

That's some #RealTalk !!